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Popular Nigerian dancer and fitness coach, Kafayat Shafau, widely known as Kaffy, has opened up on the collapse of her marriage, admitting she went into it without fully understanding what it required.
Speaking during a conversation with media personality Chude Jideonwo, Kaffy reflected on her divorce from music producer Joseph Ameh, which was finalised in January 2022. She said her experience exposed a broader issue, where many people enter marriage without adequate preparation for its realities.
According to her, the guidance people receive while growing up is often insufficient to equip them for the emotional, psychological, and practical demands of married life. She noted that, like many others, she assumed marriage would work without first gaining a deep understanding of the responsibilities involved.
Kaffy argued that marriage should be approached as a serious institution that requires learning and intentional preparation, rather than something people drift into. She stressed that society places significant importance on marriage yet does little to ensure individuals are properly trained or ready for it.
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The mother of two also questioned how easily people are able to get married compared to other major life decisions. She pointed out that while many processes require rigorous testing and qualification, marriage—despite its impact on families and society—is often entered into without similar scrutiny.
She said, “I was not educated enough for marriage, and a lot of us aren’t; our parents are not preparing us enough. Living through their eyes is not enough education about marriage.
“It is a special course that needs to be taken; we can’t have a society that issues you a marriage certificate easier than a driver’s license, like it’s harder to get the driver’s license but much easier to get a marriage certificate, but it’s inside this home that all the ills of the society are being built.
“There are a lot of mental health situations and assessments that need to go on.Its not only counselling that they should do. They should do mental evaluation of the couple.
“It should be a mandatory requirement that drug test, mental evaluation, couples therapy, all of these things, there need to be a one year programme of human behavioural sciences that they need to go before two people come and damage another human being that they would bring to life”.
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